I am currently an assistant combatives teacher and I just started teaching a new class this week. Every class is different and you never know who will be there. You may have a bunch of PVTs all the way up to a CSM or a CPT. They maybe smart dumb uncoordinated etc....
Now everyone generally makes a judgement on how attractive someone is within the first 20 seconds of meeting them. It doesn't matter if you are married, single, young, or old, everyone rates a persons attractiveness atleast subconsciously. So I show up to the first day of class and there is a high amount of female soldiers in the class (5 in a class of 25). None of them are particullarly attractive but none the less I made my judgements and never thought nothing of it. Now in the military there is some kind of bond that forms between a teacher and student. This can cause trouble if you are not carefull since most of the time the student is younger and generally less mature. It is comon, ecspecially for a student and a teacher that are in the same age group for the student to flirt with their teacher.
One of the students had begun to flirt with me near the middle of the first day. I reacted how a instructor should and didn't pay anymore attention to that student than I did the rest. However thoughout the day the student would find ways to get me to come show her a correction on a move or some other way to draw attention to her.
Now the second day of class the class was getting smoked at the end of class. The student that was flirting with me was extremly uncoordinated and alittle out of shape so she was having trouble keeping upwith the count as it was called. After a few minutes she became demotivated and really wasn't trying, after I said that the whole class would keep getting smoked if she didn't keep doing the exercise she said that "she didn't care, and she didn't care if she wasn't good at the exercises because it doesn't mean anything in the civilian world."
Now here is the point of my whole long drawn out story. When I met this student I mentally rated her to be around a 4 on a scale of 1-10. But something happened to me phisically, emotionally and mentally after she said these words.
She actually became less attractive just because of the words that came out of her mouth. I am not known for being the mostdeep person but I started to understand something during that class. I understand how when you get older and your standards change as well as your perspective. I think I have now elevated my tolerance of what type of person I can be around. I can usually get along with anyone but I think if I was stuck in a room with that girl I would go insane.
This does not mean I am better than anyone but I hope it may change the type of friends that I look for in the future.
Lily's room!
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